Is the internet making my kid socially isolated?

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How many times do we do this to people who regularly post in our comments, but may not have engaged with us one-on-one? A majority not all though of my friends are online, and this isn't all a bad thing. However, people seem to be more brazen when they can hide behind a computer rather than face to face confrontation.

My turn to walk him, too. Because I have a few of these web-based friendships.

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The problem with online friendship is that when things go wrong, we split. And this flies in the face of how people actually. Photo credit: Creative Commons True friendship only happens when people honestly share their lives with one another. Inevitably, one person will upset the other. This is what happens when you put flawed humans in a room together: they start breaking things. But something beautiful happens when we push through that initial discomfort and offense and learn to forgive each other. And this, incidentally, is why the Internet makes for a pretty lousy matchmaker between friends. We started making friends with people we had never met. Something odd happens with this heightened level of intimacy without commitment. Because I know what you ate for breakfast or what TV show you watched last night, I feel like I know you. We are connected to each other — and sometimes not always superficially. We may share legitimate, real-life interactions. As a result, we feel like we really understand each other. And maybe we do, in some way. Then, we are in a pickle. And the worst part is they have no idea. And this scares me. Because I have a few of these web-based friendships. And I want them to count. I want this connection to matter — as much as it can. What if we pressed into the mess of relationship and got to know each other, warts and all? Is that too much to ask? What if we were really committed? What if I cared enough to stick it out, even after that dumb tweet or stupid status update you wrote? Well, then we might actually be. I agree that the ease with which online relationships are broken has something to do with their superficiality. At the risk of seeming insensitive, you could look at the suicide as the ultimate un-follow. It is a shame that out of those 100,0o0 there was not one that he could call to avoid the tragedy. For a very long time I used those relationships as a blueprint of how an online friendship should look like. For a very long time I used those relationships as a blueprint of how an online friendship should look like. Online friendships can be challenging in the fact that we can write each other off way too easily. Our imperfections can still show up in a tweet or a blog post, and immediately someone is mad, but too imperfect to acknowledge it. Online friendships can be challenging in the fact that we can write each other off way too easily. Our imperfections can still show up in a tweet or a blog post, and immediately someone is mad, but too imperfect to acknowledge it. There are so many opportunities to leave unresolved issues and misinterpretations flapping in the breeze unless one or the other wants resolution enough to make an effort. The funny thing is really how do you define on-line friendship? I suppose the only real comparative for a guy of my generation Gen X is to equate it to work relationships but having said that I find it difficult to define without having met someone for real for lack of a better word. I follow a lot of different bloggers and am thankful I discovered this platform. There are a ton of interesting people out there and I am quite sure they feel the same way. I am just not sure when someone is a friend. There are really two other bloggers that I have never met that I now call friends. I suppose that we have corresponded enough to feel that way and I certainly get that message from the nature of the words. I am curious how you define an on-line friend. Online will never replace the real thing. But we have to work hard at both if we want it to be real. Whether it be on line or off, true friends need to be vulnerable. Relationships have levels of commitment and that takes time, choice, and transparency. Thanks for challenging my choices! There are a lot of hurt and broken souls out there who may actually be looking for genuine friendship online. We may be hurting people inadvertently by simply not taking the time to engage them. How many times do we do this to people who regularly post in our comments, but may not have engaged with us one-on-one? A few months back, I closed my personal FB account and started one that was all about writing and books, with just a few family pics and such. That helped me feel protected, so that I could friend just about anyone, and not worry if someone bowed out without an explanation. The thing is — it feels really impersonal now. I respectfully block the disrespectful. A few years ago, I interviewed a group of my seniors, and they all happily instructed me on the following skills: 1 How to use my cell phone to avoid talking to anyone who might make me feel awkward including carrying on a fake conversation with nobody. I actually witnessed two girls doing this. Will they learn to wrestle through issues the old-fashioned way? Or will they develop new ways perhaps driving to separate Starbucks and texting until the issue is resolved? When they go silent in an unusual way, or say something that seems terse or unlike them, I find myself examining our recent interaction, looking for how I might have been interpreted as offensive. Which leaves me wondering how well I really know them. But I really do want to forge ahead with a great many of them, and find the kind of trust and shared history that will take our friendships to the next level. There are some online friendships that I am committed to and count them as friends, not just online friends. But then there are others who I am connected with now that, 5 years from now, might be a different story. Some of my best friends right now are ones I met through the Internet. There are conservatives and liberals, Christians and atheists, married and unmarried, employed and unemployed, west coasters and east coasters. We do get to spend time with each other on occasion like this week at BlissDom but we stay connected throughout the year far better than a lot of do with friends who live close by. I have made some very good friends in both camps and while these friendships require different skills and different sustenance, both are worthwhile. I just think we all need to be sensitive to the differences. So why are they there? As to this article, Jeff is looking at the particulars of on line relationships. But the common thread that runs through all this is that Good Relationships and Good Communication works in any environment that we choose. I am a relative newbie to blogging — celebrated my 1st anniversary in January. Over the course of the first year I developed an online friendship with someone. After meeting them in person I was faced with a difficult decision. Do I speak truth to them about something that happened as I would with any other friend or do I skirt the issue and hope it goes away. I chose to speak truth and in doing so the other person withdrew blocked me from all social media and disappeared from my life. I agree with you — I think if we are going to engage with others online we need to do so with effort and intentionality, daring to be honest and building lasting relationships that count as more than a number on a blog sidebar or facebook page. Speaking the truth involves risk. Thanks for putting this out there for all. People use the written word to get to know each other. I think back to letter writing days, before the phone was common place. Who uses a phone to talk anymore? Each one of them was what I thought they were. That can be problematic. The more you put in, the more you get out of it. Online or face to face, some people will always walk away or disconnect when disagreements occur. However, people seem to be more brazen when they can hide behind a computer rather than face to face confrontation. Similar to people that criticize other drivers on the road. Do people really believe that they are going to be in total agreement with others all of the time? There are tons of people that disagree vehemently with in this world of social media. But they challenge the way I look at ideas and how I think. They probably do the same with me. I met this woman online and we really hit it off. We met in person too and got on well. I stayed over at her home. She even came for my wedding. But when she came to visit my home — for a week — she behaved in a very peculiar way and was a very bad house guest. After that experience, I began to look at all her past behavior in a different light. Frankly, I have no regrets about it. However, it makes me a little guarded about getting too close to my online friends. Your post makes me want to re-look at my online friendships. But I am not convinced that people walk away that quickly, not if there is some sort of friendship or connection between them. I think sometimes people might even be more tolerant of some things because they have more insight into what is going on. If they are regular readers they may know that we are going through a rough spot and give us more of a break and or support. Sure, it can be easy to tune people out and I think that your point is important, but most of my current writing friends I have found online and they have been more supportive and comforting and encouraging than people I have seen every day for years. But what we see online can seem much nicer than what we see in reality. This is real life. Peoples are staking their lives, the well being of their families and their future on these goals. It does not get any more real than this. This is the only option with real benefits, in the long run. Any less is dishonest and false. Any less is just a waste of the two most valuable commodities we have, breath and time. I am sorry, I know this is coming across as harsh. But sometimes harsh is exactly what we need to get us to move forward. A good ass whipping can be strong motivation. I was wrong and I feel quite attached to many of my on-line friends. I would not want to lose them, but you are so right about how easy it is to just walk away-turn off the connection. I read a comment from someone who wrote that our online relationships will always be missing the key components of real time friendships largely because we are able to shape our words and restrict or mold the way we present ourselves. I agree, but the opposite is also true. Because we are not facing each other we often let our inhibitions down and develop friendships more quickly than face to face. Either way, I think it is important to respect our friends enough to always try to get past misunderstandings. Friendship require both parties to be willing to look past some things and to forgive when the other makes a mistake and is sincerely apologetic. I have been struggling to understand the nature of friendship and community, online and off, which is why a friend of mine suggested I check you out here. I realized this when I finally, accidentally, landed in a pretty fun and generally painless relationship with my BF of 3 years. I am going through this now with a close online friend now too. Problem is that he will not push through problems with me, but becomes unavailable to me. All the while, he asks me to be available to chat, talk, email, and talk, I can never know what I did to upset him. Online friends are not as long lasting as flesh and blood ones, because the commitment of seeing a person socially in my community in person cannot be ignored, blocked, or excused in slick talk or writing. I must deal with my own faults and my friends. Friends in person must be dealt with indeed. I wish we could all be more mature in online freindships. We talk through it and move past it. He simply stopped replying. I thought that odd because my replies to him were always prompt, a day or two after his mail. We had been doing weekly email but the last few months his replies to my emails were getting further and further apart and I got the impression he had cooled towards me. When this started I mentioned to him that if he had lost interest in wanting to chat with me to let me know if he wanted to end the friendship. I said that I would understand because people move on to other interests. That was the last email from him. Two weeks ago I sent him a last note thanking him for the good chats we had, wished him luck and said goodbye. To conclude, his treatment of me proves that he did not value our friendship as much as I did and he did not feel I deserved his respect. There is irony in what happened because last year when I was a few days late in replying to his email he pointed that out. I had been in contact with a friend and he was all lovey dovey at first and he wanted me to be his secret lover. And we met three times. When I had an argument with him he would not try to sort things out , he just ignores me, and that gave me so much pain. About a month ago we had been chatting for a whole week when all of a sudden he did not reply to me or contact me, I contacted him by email, by mobile and on another site that we were on and no reply, as if he vanished or died. But when I saw his posts online a few days later I realised that he was still alive and well. He was not worth all the time that I wasted thinking of him and dreaming of him. I wish that no one goes to so much pain as I did. I rarely befriend people online, since these types of friendships lack most things that real, face-to-face friendships possess. During a time when I suffered with depression, I befriended someone online. Anyway, things started out well. She started contacting me through email and always wanted to chat online. At first, it seemed fine. She even seemed supportive at the beginning. Then she started getting into weird stuff. Every time we chatted, she would carry on about herself, her problems, and her big ego. Usually our chats were focused on bolstering her. She had obsessions with actors, and asked me if there was a chance of her getting together with them, based on their birth charts matching. I was always honest. I looked for every excuse to back her up. Her family is messed up so I felt bad for her. Anyway, I learned my lesson when this person started looking for passive-aggressive ways to suggest that I was no longer worth her time. This was coming from a person who relies solely on the internet for friendships. I guess I was no longer convenient not on facebook much and she had found new clonies who were willing to boost her ego. I actually was trying to be kind all alng — I supported her endeavors to get better, and always acknowledged her, despite having different beliefs. So although this person may be an extreme case, she is a good example of why NOT to get into online friendships. The key is to successful online communication is to recognize that we are all human. We all communicate differently. When it feels like someone has said something to upset you, they are human. I would send messages and he ignored me for one whole year. I thought we were friends. So in the end, I walked away because it was upsetting me too much. I warned him that I intend to come off being online, gave him few weeks notice, but he said nothing to me at all. We were old school friends and he was keen to talk to me to start with, he would message me lots but then he ignored me, because I asked to meet him for coffee. You deserve so much better, good luck, hope things are better for you now. Let do this again: That feeling of getting that cold shoulder and been written off online is definitely a horrible one. I went through this around six months ago when an online friendship circle that I was with a couple of members from a fanfiction website. I was given the cold shoulder when one of my so called online friends told me that I was one of the the reasons I ruined the group it began with me joining another RP group that was on fanfiction. I told that friend that I felt like I was a third wheel to her and her other online friend who was her best friend. I knew that I had to end it from there. Truth is I could have told her this two years ago because we were not compatible at all and she insisted on talking to me anyway. I hope you can respect that. My only choice is how I react to their doing so. During the recent FinCon15 I was delighted to have a chance to say hello to YOU in person, Jeff. Thanks again for that. You made some great points. The online friendships that have stuck — in my case — are those that crossed over into telephone conversation territory. I hope that makes sense. I handle disagreements the same way I do offline, but my commitment will not extend to those who are — more often than not — abusive and crude. In regular life, I would escort them to the door, so that is exactly what I do online as well. It is my humble opinion that adults should be able to disagree without being disagreeable. She lives in California USA 2525 miles away and we are due to meet and she will stay here during her family holiday touring Europe. I truly believe our friendship is the result of paths crossing for a moment but instead of moving on our paths began to run parallel and, if things work out, we want to eventually close the distance for a longer period of time and live together or close together since we both want to get away when we can. Friendship is made when two lives connect and instead of disconnecting within seconds in a lot of cases, ours are now bonded and we live our lives together. Not love, not commonality, not chemistry, not closeness. This is, I believe, what you are alluding to Jeff. Virtual or visual, Skype or Starbucks, relationships that last are the ones where both are fully committed to making it work. One all in and one sorta in makes for a difficult ride, like a twin engined plane with only one engine pulling. It hurts when you get too attached and I know it because I have expirienced it. They be all nice and sweet at first but.. Imma keep some emotional distance betweeen my virtual friends. I had met a guy from Maryland, we started as a chat friends then I became too attached. He made me feel so comfortable with for a week. Thereafter, he started making up excuses in order not to talk to me. Then, he suddenly stop texting me. And your article makes total sense. That can only come when you engage in shared activities over a period of time in person. I felt like we both created a perception of each other based on what we revealed to each other online, the meeting kinda reinforced those perceptions but as soon as circumstances changed and problems arose the friendship fell apart very quickly. So while I think internet may be fine to discuss common interests with ppl — it is not wise to get invested in those friendships. It takes a lot of commitment and communication for any friendship and online is more like a fling than a long term commitment. As they say you never really know someone unless you live with them, something very similar holds true for friendships. I could tell she was rude abd unapreciative of things I did for her, but I overlooked it and thought maybe where she is from they have no manners. Then when I met her in person, she was so mean. Always on the phone when we were together, purposely trying to avoid me. If I spoke to her she gave short, angry answers like I was bothering her. She seemed like such a mad and misserable person, and it hurt my feelings. I guess people can hide who they are online, and that is the only way some people like that can make freinds. In real life people obviously would stay away from her. I will try not to make friends online or otherwise. I have a strong connection with one. However, we video call each other and always chat. My internet best friend and I actually connected because I messaged her to help her a post she made showed she was struggling. Thus, one of the most supportive, funniest, beneficial, amazing friendships I have ever had blossomed. 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